Socio-Sufistic Trends of Marriage in Creating Harmony in the Postmodern Society of Kampung Arab, Madura: A Perspective on the Theory of Utilitarianism

Divorce in families is caused by conflict, while conflict the fallacy of postmodern society's perspective that believes logic science ignoring God's function as a supernatural force. This study aims to reaffirm Sufism value well discipline can create harmony society. The research method used qualitative-phenomenological, analyzed using theory utilitarianism. Data collection techniques through interviews, observations and documentation. findings this are 1) sufism internalized society basis value. Marriage sacred accountable covenant with Lord. seen means achieving pleasure, not merely relationship between man man; 2) rule law process goal, final cannot be contextualized context. rights obligations husbands wives adjusted sufistic attitudes has high work ethic, optimistic pro-active making family living. As process, subjective existence other processes same purpose becomes common. 3) at creating happiness whose ultimate goal harmony. Then on any basis, culture, character, customary law, if it bring socially valid.Keywords: Sufism, marriage postmodern, utilitarianism